Here’s a story you may recognize. There's a bright up-and-coming young person - let's call her Alice. Alice has a cool idea. It seems like maybe an important idea, a big idea, an idea which might matter. A new and valuable idea. It’s the first time Alice has come up with a high-potential idea herself, something which she’s never heard in a class or read in a book or what have you.

So Alice goes all-in pursuing this idea. She spends months fleshing it out. Maybe she writes a paper, or starts a blog, or gets a research grant, or starts a company, or whatever, in order to pursue the high-potential idea, bring it to the world.

And sometimes it just works!

… but more often, the high-potential idea doesn’t actually work out. Maybe it turns out to be basically-the-same as something which has already been tried. Maybe it runs into some major barrier, some not-easily-patchable flaw in the idea. Maybe the problem it solves just wasn’t that important in the first place.

From Alice’ point of view, the possibility that her one high-potential idea wasn’t that great after all is painful. The idea probably feels to Alice like the single biggest intellectual achievement of her life. To lose that, to find out that her single greatest intellectual achievement amounts to little or nothing… that hurts to even think about. So most likely, Alice will reflexively look for an out. She’ll look for some excuse to ignore the similar ideas which have already been tried, some reason to think her idea is different. She’ll look for reasons to believe that maybe the major barrier isn’t that much of an issue, or that we Just Don’t Know whether it’s actually an issue and therefore maybe the idea could work after all. She’ll look for reasons why the problem really is important. Maybe she’ll grudgingly acknowledge some shortcomings of the idea, but she’ll give up as little ground as possible at each step, update as slowly as she can.

And this is where a bunch of the standard advice from the sequences comes in. Once you’ve chosen the idea, the only way to improve it is to change the idea or choose a new idea; finding arguments that it’s a good idea will not actually make it betterYou won’t make real progress until you give upsay “oops” and move on, so do that quickly rather than slowlyWhat is true is already so; owning up to it will not make it worse.

… but that advice doesn’t make it much less painful. Trying to forcibly abandon her one high-potential idea can easily leave Alice demotivated, in despair, feeling like she’s failed as a person. Or, Alice notices herself failing to abandon the idea, and that makes her feel like she’s failed as a person. I’ve seen people really tie themselves into knots this way.

An Alternative Path

Alice’ story makes it seem like an emotional attachment to her idea is the main problem, the main thing preventing her from moving on to greener pastures. And that is true, in a sense. But then the obvious response is to directly fight the emotional attachment. And that, I claim, is usually a mistake.

Why a mistake? Because most people do not actually have that level of control over their emotions. “Just fight the emotional attachment” is a plan which pretends Alice can control something which she probably cannot actually control. (A fabricated option, in Duncan’s terminology.) And when it turns out Alice does not have that level of control, she’ll be back where she started, with a whole additional reason to feel like shit.

Worse, it’s a very common mistake to think one has that level of emotional control. Like Hazard’s story:

So young me is upset that the grub master for our camping trip forgot half the food on the menu, and all we have for breakfast is milk. I couldn't "fix it" given that we were in the woods, so my next option was "stop feeling upset about it." So I reached around in the dark of my mind, and Oops, the "healthily process feelings" lever is right next to the "stop listening to my emotions" lever.

The end result? "Wow, I decided to stop feeling upset, and then I stopped feeling upset. I'm so fucking good at emotional regulation!!!!!"

So what’s the alternative?

There’s a useful standard mental move where you notice some seemingly “irrational” (i.e. not-accurately-tracking-the-thing-it-claims-to-be-tracking) emotional reaction, then ask what real thing that emotion is tracking. In Alice’ case, her emotional attachment is tracking (perceived) idea scarcity. This is the first seemingly-high-potential idea Alice has had; of course high-potential ideas will feel scarce to her! If she loses this one, then she has no high-potential ideas left.

That suggests an alternative path: rather than viewing emotional attachment as the root problem, view (perceived) idea scarcity as the root problem.

And there’s an obvious way to directly fight idea scarcity, without tying oneself into emotional knots: go explore, and find some other high-potential ideas. Alice doesn’t need to abandon her big idea (yet), she just needs to go find more ideas to complement it and compete with it. If she’s found one, she can probably find others.

(This is similar to Eliezer's advice to leave a line of retreat, but with the bonus that it requires less explicitly thinking about the world in which Alice' high-potential idea fails.)

In My Own Life

Way back in high school, I once thought I found an efficient algorithm for integer factorization (a major open problem). I was so excited; it would have been the only major discovery I’d ever made. I remember realizing one step of the logic didn’t work, and telling myself that step seemed unimportant. I remember the feeling of avoiding thinking about it, the instinctive flinch away from the thought of failure and towards reassuring myself that I’d found something big.

The algorithm didn’t work, of course. In that case, fortunately, reality provided a sufficiently unambiguous feedback loop that I couldn’t deceive myself for long. Months, not years.

… that wasn’t enough to learn the pattern, though. Shortly out of college, reality was still hitting me over the head; that time the big idea was an efficient implementation of universal competitively-optimal portfolios. I lost a couple thousand dollars on wildly over-leveraged forex positions. After that I finally started to eye my promising-seeming ideas with some instinctive mistrust. Not stop pursuing them - I learned a lot from even the failed ideas, and over time I became noticeably better at evaluating my own supposedly-big ideas, as well as more systematically searching for big ideas. That instinctive mistrust, that tendency to look for ways my ideas might fail rather than only ways they might work, was a key load-bearing part of becoming better at it.

And I don’t think it’s a coincidence that I had to go through multiple seemingly-big ideas to get there. In hindsight, each time it got easier to abandon the idea when it didn’t work out. It’s not just learning from experience, it’s the gut-level anticipation that there will be more ideas in the future. I don’t have zero emotional attachment to my ideas, of course - my current work on natural abstraction is beautiful and I love it. But if it turns out that my approach to natural abstraction is all totally wrong, or totally useless, I wouldn’t feel like I’ve been reduced to nothing. It’s not the only thread I’m pulling on.


If you want to avoid becoming one of those researchers or entrepreneurs or creators who’s just not emotionally capable of abandoning their supposedly-great idea, even after reality has clearly told them to say “oops” and move on, don’t try to hammer away emotions you don’t actually control. Instead, treat the problem upstream: go find more big ideas. There’s more out there, you can find them. Remove the gut-level feeling that this is your only big idea, your one chance, and you’ll be much better able to see when your idea falls short without feeling like you’ve lost everything.

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In my view, it's part of a more general lesson, which is something like "avoid monopolies on your emotional needs". For healthy functioning, people need to satisfy various feelings — that their future is secured, that they belong somewhere, that what they're doing or who they are matters, and so on. And if there's only one thing or person or self-narrative or other feature that can satisfy a particular need, and this need is very deep — well, you get all the problems that monopolies tend to cause.

It's a good idea to diversify one's investments, and that includes emotional investment. Always having a spread of options, instead of only one, is a sensible policy. It's not always tractable, though, or may be too expensive in some domains. In that case, you may want to invest in... the entirety of the startup scene in the related domain of emotional need satisfaction, which, in this metaphor that suddenly became very tortured, is "confidence in your ability to find a substitute for this emotional-need-provider should it become necessary".

The tell-tale sign here is being utterly terrified of losing something or failing at something. It's obviously unavoidable in some cases (you can hardly diversify your emotional investment in your life, at this tech level), but if you feel that, it might be a good idea to look around and consider if there are good diversification opportunities you're passing up on.

Yep, see also polyamory kinda.

light downvoted but explaining why to give opportunity to reply and disagree.
Meta level : 
- Lack of any explanation, just references some locally appreciated thing
- yet it had already 8 upvotes which look like ingroup "I got that reference" instead of "This comment is beneficial to LW"
- analogies are bad if you don't give their boundaries. If I say "x is like y" without specifying along which properties or axis it's generally low information. 

on object level : 
- I don't see polyamory as being much of an answer to "avoid monopolies on your emotional needs". 
- It kinda maps to "diversify one's investments" on a surface level but I'd say you expose yourself to more risk with polyamory than not, while diversifying is supposed to reduce risks.

Honestly yeah, good points.

It’s not the only thread I’m pulling on.

I think this is worth expanding on- in practice, I've found the strongest method for avoiding the "oh no my great idea is not working out but I'm stuck in it" trap is to have other promising options just waiting for you to poke them.

Instead of feeling trapped and entering a cycle of motivation-killing burnout, a dying idea starts feeling just... kind of boring, and you naturally want to do the other more interesting thing. You don't even have to try, you just find yourself thinking about it in the shower. When refined and used intentionally, it can align productivity with natural inclinations.

I tend to organize my work as a few different parallel depth first searches. In a given day, I'll often work on two different things, and in a given week I might hit three or five. Something like spaced repetition applied to fields of study, with time for the other ideaspaces to lie fallow. This tends to produce recursively expanding options for research. After doing this for years, it's now completely impossible for me to actually investigate everything I've written down in a todo somewhere, but at least I definitely don't feel married to any one idea!

I suspect getting the full benefit does require a few (dozen) iterations of failure. Noticing that you already know an idea is dead is a lot easier when you've felt that same thing 20 times.

Here is a model of mine, that seems related.

[Edit: Add Epistemic status]
Epistemic status: I have used this successfully in the past and found it helpful. It is relatively easy to do. is large for me.

I think it is helpful to be able to emotionally detach yourself from your ideas. There is an implicit "concept of I" in our minds. When somebody criticizes this "concept of I", it is painful. If somebody says "You suck", that hurts.

There is an implicit assumption in the mind that this concept of "I" is eternal. This has the effect, that when somebody says "You suck", it is actually more like they say "You sucked in the past, you suck now, and you will suck, always and ever".

In order to emotionally detach yourself from your ideas, you need to sever the links in your mind, between your ideas and this "concept of I". You need to see an idea as an object that is not related to you. Don't see it as "your idea", but just as an idea.

It might help to imagine that there is an idea-generation machine in your brain. That machine makes ideas magically appear in your perception as thoughts. Normally when somebody says "Your idea is dumb", you feel hurt. But now we can translate "Your idea is dumb" to "There is idea-generating machinery in my brain. This machinery has produced some output. Somebody says this output is dumb".

Instead of feeling hurt, you can think "Hmm, the idea-generating machinery in my brain produced an idea that this person thinks is bad. Well maybe they don't understand my idea yet, and they criticize their idea of my idea, and not actually my idea. How can I make them understand?" This thought is a lot harder to have while being busy feeling hurt.

Or "Hmm, this person that I think is very competent thinks this idea is bad, and after thinking about it I agree that this idea is bad. Now how can I change the idea-generating machinery in my brain, such that in the future I will have better ideas?" That thought is a lot harder to have when you think that you yourself are the problem. What is that even supposed to mean that you yourself are the problem? This might not be a meaningful statement, but it is the default interpretation when somebody criticizes you.

The basic idea here is, to frame everything without any reference to yourself. It is not me producing a bad plan, but some mechanism that I just happened to observe the output of. In my experience, this not only helps alleviate pain but also makes you think thoughts that are more useful.

On the other hand, I find it way too easy to abandon my bright ideas. I often just lose interest or get distracted by something.

I have 10,000+ words of unpublished drafts, and outlines I've not even yet turned into drafts.

I often envy people like Alice and child John who are able to cling on to their idea for months until it fails.

I wish I could persevere at any idea for months.

Î’ve left so many things unpublished over the years that I know your feeling very well. If you look anything like me, there may be a part of you who feel like you need either slack or working on more important things.

I am reminded of a warning from my father: “beware of people who are too attached to an idea they had. It usually means that they don’t have many of them”

Or they're desperate. And/or don't trust themselves to be ok if the idea fails.

The tension seems to come from the idea either working or not working. Supposedly if the idea does not work there is huge sunk cost with no payoff and others that have not latched on an idea for long are forward.

If one were proud about the exploration that could successfully end in a negative result. Existence proofs are nice but impossibility proofs are nothing to sneeze at. If everybody wants to p-hack their media-sexy idea into a paper and nobody wants to do replications, on research community level there can also be issues about setting incentives of impressiveness vs research.

In the process of making a blog about an idea that ultimately went nowhere, the entertainment value of reading the blog is still around. It all does not need to hang on that one nail. Maybe the real treasure was the researchers we made along the way?

Curated. This post adds two important pieces to the "how to make intellectual progress faster on problems we don't understand" toolkit. First: knowing when to pivot away from an idea can save you a lot of time on your journey to finding the Actually Good Ideas. And second: by making it easier to look at ways your idea might fail, you're able to more quickly iterate and rework a flawed idea into something that works.

That tiny note of accomplishment when John Wentworth links the selection theorems tag I created in one of his posts. 😌

It's a very little thing, but it's useful to me and it's nice to know that it's useful to senpai as well. 🥺

This was thorough, concise, and helpful. Thank you.

So, I have an internal sense that I have overcome "idea scarcity", as a result of systematized creativity practice (mostly related to TRIZ), and I have a suspicion that this is both learnable and useful (as a complement to the domain-specific approach of "read a lot about the SOTA of alignment"), but I don't know how useful; do you have a sense that this particular problem is a bottleneck in alignment?

I can imagine a few ways this might be the case:

  • Junior researchers come up with one great idea and then burn out (where they might have been able to come up with 2 or 3 otherwise); most researchers are junior in such a new field, so fixing this would nearly double or triple the number of great ideas, increasing the chance that one of them succeeds (plus positive second-order effects).
  • Researchers waste effort working on an idea after it's no longer promising because they worry they won't come up with a new one (where without the fear, they would have shifted back to "explore" sooner); back-of-the-envelope, I imagine this would save about 10% of researcher time (again, with positive second-order effects).
  • As a field, we're doing too little work to find fatal flaws in ideas, in part because there is a shortage and it would be too demotivating, which leads to a similar dynamic as above, where execution effort is spent on ideas that should have been shelved.

I liked this for the idea that fear of scarcity can drive "unreasonable" behaviors. This helps me better understand why others may behave in "undesirable" ways and provides a more productive way of addressing the problem than blaming them for being e.g. selfish. This also provides a more enjoyable way of changing my behaviors. Instead of being annoyed with myself for e.g. being too scared to talk to people, I look out for tiny accomplishments (e.g. speaking up when someone got my order wrong) and the benefits it brings (e.g. getting what I wanted to order), to show myself that I am capable. The more capable I feel, the less afraid I am of the world.

I'd say it depends on the situation as well as on the idea.

If you are unable to test it for a while but feel reasonably sure you will be able to do it well, given the chance;

If at the moment, you are, demographically, someone who is likely to stop pursuing ideas regardless of what they amount to, properly tested;

If you have obligations (or expectations, yours or not) which you can meet more easily following your idea whether it works or not;

If you do have other ideas, and they are cool and everything but would require more work and - worse - are much less well-defined than your Big Idea;

If you wouldn't have to depend on others (much) to follow exactly this one idea and you don't feel like those others are really interested in working with you after all;

If your field of study (or whatever) is just built around... well, data... and there have been a few people you admire who went with their ideas instead of simply collecting observations...

then yeah, idea scarcity bites hard.

So can you control emotion with rationality, or can't you?  "There's more fish in the sea" seems like classic emotion response control.  Or maybe it's that "emotion" vs. "feelings" idea— one you have control of, and one you do not?  Or it's the reaction you can control, not the emotion itself?

Having to "take a dream out behind the woodshed", as it were, is part of becoming a whole person I guess, but it's, basically by definition, not a pleasant experience.  I reckon that's by design, as sometimes, reality surprises you.

I think it boils down to the inherent paradox of persistence.  There are adages about both ends of it— i.e. giving up too soon, and not giving up soon enough— and neither is "wrong" per se.  I think mainly it can be hard to tell which is which, and maybe instead of looking at things as win or lose or pass or fail, we should, as someone already mentioned, enjoy the ride.

Does being able to do judo on our emotions count as being able to control them?  Is this all semantics?  I dunno— but I'm glad you found something that works for you, and share it in the hope that it helps others.

A good methodology for idea-generation, which avoids attachment to the "but-it's-my" idea:

  1. Explore the design-space. Look at all the possibilities; because it would be ignorant to ignore them. You aren't supposed to find 'the best' here; this is about answering "What is Possible? What are my Options?" If you've only come-up with three to five (e.g. "It has to be Capitalism, Communism, or Socialism") then you haven't even started. I looked at a few dozens of ways to combine Zeppelins, Paramotors, and Sail Boats... five options ain't even started.
  2. Look at the pro's and con's of each idea - in order to find the patterns between those ideas. You're not picking 'the best idea'! If two ideas both share a particular failure, that's where you ask: "What is it about these designs that leads to that failure?" Now, you have a better grasp of what sorts of problems come from what kinds of designs. No good designs, yet!
  3. Pick lots of weird niche-application-spaces. NOT because you plan to market into those niches - no! Rather, when you ask "How would I have to design this for an Arctic Marine Environment? Or, if it has to fit in an elevator, and fold into the trunk of your car?" You are narrowing-down your options in that vast design space, creating extra constraints, more problems to overcome beyond the normal. That is when you have to hunt for the weird and surprising solutions. Stack those odd-balls up! None of them are good stand-alone designs.
  4. You now have a good sense of what's possible, and what designs create which sorts of problems, and you've come-up with lots of awkward niche-solutions. Now, you can glom those niche-bits together, and see if any of them stick; this is combinatorial search, so you're probably best meandering for a while. If anything stands-out, see how you can hone-in on it. Most of the time, you're still left with a pile of junk! Sometimes, you have a new algorithm, or a new touchscreen, or a zeppelin-paramotor-caravel.

So, by shuffling through and clustering solutions according to which problems they share, (step 2) then you are actively identifying all the problems, in general... including the problems with your 'favorite,' early, almost-certainly-bad idea.

This is useful and nice. But sometimes there is, it seems to me, an unsolvable problem: when your ‘great idea’ isn’t even so great, so unique or important, but it seems to be true – not only to yourselves but to many contemporary scientists. In your opinion, – the best ones. For example, the idea that in contemporary science there is a big mess with issues like information and entropy. Although the information is measured in bits and the entropy is measured in Joles per Kelvin, most last century publications say that sometimes they are equal. The paper about this mess is here:

There are many other ‘uses and misuses’, e.g., in AI discussions about consciousness there are many authors and philosophers talking about the hard and easy problem of consciousness, and ‘what is it like to be a bat?‘. Finding answers to these ‘problems’ I will leave to my reader.

I find there is a significant phase-change between being a stereo-direction-hearer and an echolocator. I remember being a stricler about a possibility claim about "it is impossible for a human to know what it is like to be a bat", it was/is not a proper no-go theorem but mere argument from lack of imagination. So I became an echolocator to know. While that is hard to share evidence, the claim about impossibility is disproved for me. I find the bat issue to be an actual question. Assuming that just pointing to a question should be reveal it to be obviously non-sense is a non-argument or at best an argument from lack of imagination.

"mistrust" is not the best approach here. Mistrusting yourself or your ideas can lead to misery and feeling lackadaisical. Could lead to lacking motivation to pursue an idea as hard as you otherwise might.

"Openness" is a better idea imo. Openness to the idea failing or taking some adjustment to reach success, openness to it succeeding as well. Looking at ideas not just as a way to achieve success, but test the view you have on the world, a way to learn something new about the world through testing it and working on it.