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Open Thread, May 26 - June 1, 2014 — LessWrong

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Open Thread, May 26 - June 1, 2014

26th May 2014

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Open Thread, May 26 - June 1, 2014

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[-]Dirac_Delta12y300

Hello. I've been a lurker here for quite some time now, but this is the first time I am making an appearance. I would like to consult everyone here regarding what I perceive to be irrationality on my part. I hope that you will be patient towards me and refrain from downvoting out of irritation, as I would prefer not to have my comment hidden, since that would greatly reduce my chances of getting feedback.

The issue is this: while I am fully aware that anecdotes do not constitute data, I have a very difficult time believing that test preparation only has a modest positive effect (if any) on SAT scores, even though this has been noted by several studies. Such a finding is completely incongruent with my personal experiences growing up in an East Asian country where most students (regardless of their socioeconomic status) attend cram schools or hire after-school private tutors -- many of these students have managed to perform much better than they otherwise would have, due to the extra lessons and revision. (They usually go through several iterations of testing themselves using old SAT papers before sitting for the actual test, and there are often very significant gains -- sometimes as ... (read more)

[-]James_Miller12y190

I would bet that the gains from practicing the SATs are relatively high for people who have strong verbal abilities but are not proficient in English.

Also, since the SATs are optimized for U.S. students it might be the case that there are question types which U.S. students have seen thousands of times and so because of diminishing marginal returns would gain little by additional study, yet a Chinese student might never have encountered a similar problem and so would massively gain from practicing it.

7AlexSchell12y

SAT is very g-loaded, so it would be susceptible to the same practice effect that IQ tests in general are susceptible to. If you look at SAT/IQ tables, the 20-40 point increase Tyler cites corresponds to about 1.5-3 IQ points. This is consistent with the typical magnitude (< 5 points) of the practice effects on IQ test scores. Your "hundreds of points" are wildly inconsistent with this. The only way I could see that happen is if quite a bit of the SAT would test for skills that can be practiced but don't correlate with g. Not very likely. The way to reconcile your experience with the evidence is to note that the score on a low-stakes practice test is just not comparable to the score on the real thing (with or without test prep). It's not that implausible to believe that, say, 10% of people (more than enough to account for your anecdotes) will score at least 100 points less on an early practice test than they could score on the real thing at the same level of preparation. It's hard to trick your brain into believing that something is high-stakes when it isn't. ETA: On reflection, the low-stakes hypothesis probably doesn't account for too much of the puzzle. In particular, it doesn't explain any gain between consecutive low-stakes practice tests. I think James Miller's explanation takes the cake. The SAT-g correlation is likely a lot lower for a population not proficient in English.

[-]Luke_A_Somers12y100

The only way I could see that happen is if quite a bit of the SAT would test for skills that can be practiced but don't correlate with g. Not very likely.

Not likely?? It's certain!

If you know the scoring rules and their implications like when to guess and when to leave it blank, that can get you points you might miss from leaving it blank and reduce your penalty on things you'd have gotten wrong.

If you know better how to manage your time, then you won't end up rushed.

Simply having done it before reduces the stress of the situation and can enable better focus.

Being familiar with the style of questions asked will help a lot - you'll know to expect certain odd phrasings that can trip up a naive test-taker, and in some cases you will barely need to parse, simply pattern-match. 'Yup, this is that kind of question.'

And that's setting aside just studying the words they're likely to ask you about.

None of these have all that much to do with g, and I can see them producing a swing of 40 points easily, perhaps more at the lower end (you know, in the case where there are hundreds of points to gain).

This isn't to say that intense SAT prep is a huge difference on average - it could end up ind... (read more)

0Dirac_Delta12y

This comment is very insightful -- you managed to articulate a lot of non-g factors that would explain my own observations. Thank you.

1James_Miller12y

You are right that a test being g-loaded is not inconsistent with test takers receiving significant gains from repeatedly taking this test. This is why formal IQ tests used by experts are not available to the general public because practicing them can significantly raise scores and so give an inaccurate estimate of IQ. Edited because I misread the above comment.

0Dirac_Delta12y

This is one possibility. Thanks for bringing it up.

6Metus12y

I am just throwing out a few thoughts here though this example can serve as an excellent case study. The first is availability and selection bias. It is only the students that actually get an apparent benefit that come to your mind as examples and it is only the students that actually get a benefit from learning that will continue to do so. Why learn even more when through testing you see that there is virtually no benefit? Another effect is that repeatedly testing on the SAT may be the only part of the intervention actually having an effect. This might be through gaining confidence in test taking and/or reducing test anxiety. Also there might be some weird psychological effect going on where people subconsciously do worse until they receive tutoring to justify the expense. And a last thing is status quo bias. For any piece of evidence that says that conventional wisdom is wrong, people will tend to disregard the evidence and this shows as an apparent chasm. That is why I personally tend to dislike the sentence "The burden of proof is on you.".

9tgb12y

I like your points, but it does seem awfully surprising that there would not be an improvement on, for example, the reading section which has a number of questions that are little more than vocabulary tests. Vocabulary is easy to study and if you don't know it you have little chance of figuring it out. Or for the math section, someone who hasn't taken geometry before will do very poorly on any geometry questions on the test. (I think this is an unobjectionable claim.) So it would be surprising if people who studied geometry at all suddenly get all the possible benefit of studying - studying doesn't seem like it should be a binary thing where you hop from no knowledge/poor performance to full knowledge/as-good-as-you-could-get performance. Note that the two articles cited by the OP's link are not randomized controlled trials and are both actually based off the same survey data. I, too, join the OP in confusion and mild skepticism of the research.

2Metus12y

As I am not a citizen of the US, I have no idea what the exact makeup is of the SAT, so I have to keep guessing. I take the contrary position for the sake of argument. As far as the SAT measures knowledge it would be very surprising to see no effect of learning. What we are examining though is the effect of additional test preparation beyond the usual curriculum. So I would argue that the marginal benefit of additional preparation is extremely low as all the necessary knowledge is conferred by the usual curriculum - especially by the students considering taking the SAT and taking additional care to ace them. I seem to recall that SAT and g are highly correlated. Insofar as the SAT is a g-heavy IQ test I am not at all surprised that additional preparation confers virtually no advantage, just as we know of no way to reliably increase g. Insofar the SAT measures ability like geometry it would be surprising if learning those subjects gives no benefit as long as the required knowledge goes beyond what is already taught in high school.

0tgb12y

While a good point, the OP's link says that: * There is only a moderate correlation between income and taking of test prep * Under-performing minorities are more likely to take test prep than whites In other words, quite a few people taking test prep are ones likely to be going to poor, under-performing school systems. Either test prep companies are incompetent or our school system is doing a lot better than I had expected, even on the low end!

5[anonymous]12y

Are the American methods of test preparation different from the methods you observed to be effective?

0Dirac_Delta12y

This is a good question -- unfortunately, I am unable to answer this as I have no exposure to American schools.

4Douglas_Knight12y

Where do they get the old test papers? In America, it is common for the cram schools to supply "old test papers" that are actually considerably more difficult.

2Dirac_Delta12y

There are publishers here that publish collections of old test papers (along with the solutions) that were administered over the past 10 years, and many students practise by testing themselves using those.

4TylerJay12y

This paper has some interesting information and proposes the idea that the tests are designed to be resistant to short-term test prep: It also alludes to there being multiple studies that have failed to find large effect sizes from test-prep courses. However, I'm not sure I quite believe that test prep is that ineffective. I never did test-prep for the SAT because I got a good enough score my first time to get into the university I wanted, but I did use test-prep books for AP tests, a few times for classes that I didn't even take, and I got 5/5 on most of those. I'm sure those were intended to be "cram-resistant" too, but they clearly weren't. It's possible that the confusion here on LW comes from the systemic bias of the majority of people here being of above-average intelligence, though I don't know what the mechanism for that would be. I'll just add that "I notice that I am confused" as well, so something that we believe must be false...

1therufs12y

My vague recollection of the SAT and ACT was that they were designed to test your ability to perform certain cognitive tasks, but didn't test whether you had any particular knowledge. There may have been exceptions on grammar questions, but I think that in the math section, you were given any formulas you might need -- whereas AP tests test knowledge extensively. There may be a point at which you've taken so many test SAT/ACTs that, for lack of a better analogy, you've strengthened those cognitive muscles enough for it to make a difference, but cramming seems like an obviously ineffective way to handle this. AP tests, on the other hand, have a limited scope of facts for you to produce on command.

0Nornagest12y

There was definitely a vocabulary component to the version of the SAT that I took (in the late Nineties). I seem to recall hearing that a later version of the test had dropped that, though, probably over cultural bias concerns.

Some random thoughts on Three Worlds Collide, which I was re-reading on a whim:

"Why have you not yet disabled the Babyeater ship? Your craft possesses the capability of doing so, and you must realize that your purpose now opposes theirs."

"Because," Akon said, "they did not disable our ship."

The Lady 3rd nodded. "You are symmetrists, then."

I feel like there's a better answer here: "Because it's hard to un-shoot them later if we decide it was a bad idea." When uncertain what to do, keep your options open.

That's also my answer to "Humankind, you did not likewise repair yourselves when you attained to technology," I think. Species-wide self-modification on that scale probably isn't something you should do unless you are certain that 1. it will work as intended, 2. you can reverse it if it doesn't, and 3. the change itself doesn't screw up your ability to determine whether it was a good idea. If you can't be that certain, better to wait. Not-modifying is easier to correct later if you were wrong than modifying.

When uncertain what to do, keep your options open.

Right, I recall having the same thought, if fleeting. "Measure twice and cut once" and all that.

My main gripe with the story was actually the universal (across species) desire to impose one's morality on alien intelligences. This premise challenged my suspension of disbelief more than anything else in the story.

4Gav12y

"desire to impose one's morality on alien intelligences." Actually it wasn't quite universal. The Baby Eaters (for all their obvious flaws) only tried to change other people's minds by debate and discussion. I was a bit disappointed that humanity didn't try and take the alien poetic argument and respond to it. As pointed out, it likely wouldn't have been fruitful given the Baby Eaters neurology is largely built on recycled baby-eating circuitry, but still. Although of course it could be argued that the reason why we didn't see the Baby Eaters actually impose their morality was they were the least technologically sophisticated of all 3 species.

0[anonymous]12y

Well, do you think anyone wants to impose their morality on others? If so, why do they want this?

1Shmi12y

You are the philosopher, why are you asking me? But we certainly love telling others what they are doing wrong, whether it affects us or not. "Live and let live" attitude is there, but not very popular. And non-existent in 3WC.

1[anonymous]12y

Well, if I had to take a guess (at gunpoint, etc.) I suppose I would say that we try to impose our moral beliefs on other people because we think as a matter of fact that those others are already bound by those moral norms. And our imposition just consists in our trying to get them to acknowledge that fact. But now that I put it that way, I've flipped myself around entirely and I wonder why anyone would wish to 'live and let live'? After all, if I am subject to a given moral norm, I'd certainly want to know about it.

1Shmi12y

With the caveat "but I already know about it, obviously, it's those savages who do not and need to be shown the light", just like in 3WC. Three repugnant (to me) species in one story, I've only now realized. Of course, it's likely that I'm simply pointing at the log in someone else's eye.

2blacktrance12y

Two repugnant species, I'd say. The Superhappies were right.

0[anonymous]12y

Hm! This may well be the problem with the story.

0somnicule12y

Is the desire to impose one's morality on alien intelligences surprising relative to the "Eliminate the alien species" option, or "Conduct trade with the alien species", or "Avoid the alien species as much as possible"?

-1Shmi12y

None of the above. Human cultures used to be pretty good at "let those other weirdos do what they want, as long as they don't bother us" until certain proselytizing religions came along.

[-]Richard_Kennaway12y160

I thought the more usual practice throughout history was "we don't care what those other weirdos want, we want their land".

9fubarobfusco12y

I'm not convinced. Proselytization — and even forced conversion — seem to have been a less violent alternative to the previous human habit of killing all the adults and boys, taking the virgin girls as rape slaves, and eradicating the culture of "those other weirdos" when a military advantage can be had. Moses was angry with the officers of the army [...] who returned from the battle. [...] "Now kill all the boys. And kill every woman who has slept with a man, but save for yourselves every girl who has never slept with a man." — Numbers 31:14,17-18

4Lumifer12y

That's just not true at all. Look at studies of warfare in "stone-age" tribes, e.g. in the Amazon or New Guinea. It's low-intensity but pretty constant. Or look at the Vikings. Or the Mongol horde. How do you think the Roman Empire got so big? Etc, etc.

0[anonymous]12y

Everyone replying seems to be misreading what I intended to express. Come on, give me some credit, I am not a complete idiot. Of course human tribes (and animal packs) fought for resources of various kinds. What the tribes cared little about is other tribes' treatment of their own members.

-2Lumifer12y

That did NOT change when "certain proselytizing religions came along." Tribes fought for power and resources; they still fight for power and resources, PR efforts notwithstanding.

4DanielLC12y

Superhappies don't act symmetrically with just anyone. Only with other symmetrists. If humans decided not to shoot them for the reason you gave, and the Superhappies found out, the human's interests would have been ignored.

3blacktrance12y

I agree (at least with 1 and perhaps 2), but this answer seems like a cop-out. I think the point of that theme of Three Worlds Collide is about self-modification in principle, not just about it being safe and working as intended. The true rejection is not "We'd like to, we're just being cautious", it's "This modification repels us and we wouldn't do it even if we knew it would work as intended".

Reading "The Selfish Gene" teaches enough evolutionary biology to understand what the field is about, to understand the basics of the field, and to be able to converse on it intelligently.

What book can I read that will do the same for me in:

Medicine/biology/physiology (e.g. able to understand the very basic concepts of what a doctor does)
Law (e.g. able to understand the very basic concepts of working as a lawyer).

Bonus points - if the book on Law explains the practical difference between common-law and civil-law.

Thanks!

[-]badger12y120

Metafilter has a classic thread on "What book is the best introduction to your field?". There are multiple recommendations there for both law and biology.

0Viliam_Bur12y

Law Comic -- not a book, but very easy to read.

2edanm12y

Relatedly, The Law of Superheroes is a funny look at applying Law to pretend cases that could happen in a world with superheroes. Very recommended. It works well for what I want, but isn't in-depth enough to really leave me feeling that I've learned law. But the law is tricky in that, afaict, it's a lot of details and unofficial know-how, so many it's not a field where a book like I describe could exist.

0DanielLC12y

That description kinds of reminds me of How to Succeed in Evil, although I'm pretty sure the law in there isn't very accurate.

0Metus12y

Can we extend this question to virtually any major field?

[-]HungryHippo12y140

The Best Textbooks on Every Subject

0iarwain112y

For molecular biology, a really good, short, well-written introductory overview is The Machinery of Life.

-2[anonymous]12y

A good introductory textbook.

8A1987dM12y

It's not like it's trivially easy to tell whether a textbook is good ahead of time...

5[anonymous]12y

Yes, it can be tricky. But this is true of all information sources to some degree, and the problem is usually solvable with simple heuristics and some search effort. I've found Amazon (or other website) reviews to be a fairly helpful guide. It's important to read the reviews themselves, to see if you fit with the reviewing audience, before interpreting the numerical ratings. I've also had success simply searching for "best X textbook", or "best X textbook for beginners". Look for discussions on specialist sites (like MathOverflow, or a physics forum), or recommendations from academics with proven communication skills. One dilemma specific to academic textbooks is that beginners have only read one or two books, while experts have read so many books they have forgotten what it is like to be a beginner. Another problem with textbook recommendations is that people recommend really dense books to signal their intelligence. Edit: If anything, the reviews of popular books are more likely to be hyped and biased for irrelevant reasons than reviews of textbooks, once you filter out the people who were assigned the book in a class they don't want to take. For example, popular books on psychology versus a Psych 101 textbook.

0ChristianKl12y

Asking people who you trust for recommendation might be a better heuristic than seeking a book yourself. In this case I think asking other LessWrongers is a good strategy.

7edanm12y

I don't think that's the right approach. A textbook is in many ways the opposite of what I want. In-depth look at a narrow part of the field. I want just the opposite. Also, something that's more about giving the story behind the field and making the field interesting. Another good example - Thomas Sowell's Basic Economics taught me enough to understand the idea behind economics, the basic vocabulary, how an economist approaches things, etc. To learn more, I'm now looking at textbooks on Economics, but I definitely wouldn't have started there. And for the vast majority of people that I want to just know a bit of economics, Basic Economics is perfect. (Potentially even some lighter texts cold work, e.g. Naked Economics).

2[anonymous]12y

For most fields, there are textbooks designed to provide breadth and motivation, and to introduce arbitrary newcomers to the basic method and style of the subject. Sometimes a popular book will be better, but textbooks are often undervalued because reading a textbook is weird.

2edanm12y

I agree that textbooks are undervalued, but I'm still unsure that textbooks that meet my requirements exist. Do you have any examples of textbooks that help a layperson understand economics in the way I envision that's better than a more "popularized" book?

0[anonymous]12y

I read Principles of Economics by Mankiw. This is the only economics textbook I've read, so I'm not a great source for a recommendation, but I think this book is likely to be lead to a better understanding than a non-academically marketed book. The table of contents is fairly detailed. (I'm able to view this under "Search inside this book"). You can see this is not a narrow text, but that no topic is dwelled on to the point of tedium. Each chapter is only 20-30 pages of so, and that covers an introduction, results, and examples. The examples ("In the news"/"Case Studies") are clearly chosen to interest a layperson who has some interest in economics, including an introduction to some lesswrong staples like signaling and voting. There are introductory chapters that try to introduce the economic approach, but most of the meat is in inducting from the gazillion examples and topics presented. The headings for Chapter 23 (explaining GDP) are a good example of the background technical knowledge that this book assumes (almost none). Remember also that textbooks are absolutely brimming with pictures and graphs, which seldom appear in large numbers in non-textbooks. This alone is a serious advantage of textbooks. In this case, there is also a little math involved, but the "Graphing: A Brief Review" section should give you an idea of the level required. What are the weaknesses of the format? It's doesn't push the narrative-social-interest button. Meaning, it doesn't follow a particular person through a particular story, which we're hardwired to find interesting. Related to this, it's also weak on history of economics. If I remember right, there are some nods to foundational figures (Adam Smith), and then a little bit on the evolution of modern macroeconomics.

[-]Daniel_Burfoot12y150

I am thinking about moving to the Bay Area, probably Berkeley. I want to do a reconaissance mission first. My plan would be:

Rent a place through AirBnb for a long weekend
Walk around, try out the public transportation system, maybe check out some apartments
Go to some LessWrong/MIRI/CFAR events

I assume some other LWers not currently in the Bay Area are also thinking about moving there - would any of you be interested in joining me on this mission? Renting a larger space would be cheaper on a per person basis, and it seems like it would be good to have other people to help weigh the pros and cons of different areas and lifestyles (e.g. commuting by car vs using the subway; sharing a house near the city center vs. living by oneself in the suburbs).

2falenas10812y

I'm thinking of applying to Berkley next year for grad school, and I'd be up for that!

[-]ShardPhoenix12y140

Lately I've noticed, both here and the wider LW-sphere, a trend towards rationalizing the status quo. For example, pointing out how seemingly irrational behavior might actually be rational when taking into account various factors. Has anyone else noticed the same?

At any rate I'm not sure if this represents an evolution (taking into account more subtleties) or regression (genuine change is too hard so let's rationalize) in the discourse.

[-]shware12y300

"Again and again, I’ve undergone the humbling experience of first lamenting how badly something sucks, then only much later having the crucial insight that its not sucking wouldn’t have been a Nash equilibrium." --Scott Aaronson

1Metus12y

Damn, that is a lession I forgot. Does anyone else experience this? Reading an article, agreeing with it being an interesting insight, forgetting it and then rediscovering it in a different context?

6Ben_LandauTaylor12y

This happened to me all the time before I started putting valuable insights into Anki. I find that 1 card per outstanding article or lecture and 1-3 cards per excellent book is about right. (This is the only thing I use Anki for.)

3Risto_Saarelma12y

I tried this but went about it wrong, I wrote a whole bunch of cards like I was making comprehensive notes (around the level of detail of the MineZone book notes), and ended up getting frustrated by the chaff of disordered small notes that the system threw back at me. One card per article / book section seems like a good rule of thumb. Do you have any conventions for turning insights that don't necessarily go into a neat question/answer format into card halves? Just put the whole thing on the front of the card?

2Ben_LandauTaylor12y

I've found that the process of creating the cards is helpful because it forces me to make the book's major insight explicit. I usually use cloze tests to run through a book's major points. For example, my card for The Lean Startup is: "The Lean Startup process for continuous improvement is (1) {{c1::identify the hypothesis to test}}, (2) {{c2::determine metrics with which to evaluate the hypothesis}}, (3) {{c3::build a minimum viable product}}, (4) {{c4::use the product to get data and test the hypothesis}}." This isn't especially helpful if you just remember what the four phrases are, so I use this as a cue to think briefly about each of those concepts.

0Risto_Saarelma12y

Does this become a single card with four blanks to fill or four cards that have all but one blank visible?

0Metus12y

I'll have to try that. Indeed I'll have to try to not forget that.

9ygert12y

What you are observing is part of the phenomenon of meta-contrarianism. Like everything Yvain writes, the aforementioned post is well worth a read.

[-]Kaj_Sotala12y180

I don't know. Metacontrarianism, as I understand it, involves taking specific positions solely for the sake of differentiating oneself from others, whereas many of the status quo explanations (e.g. Yvain's recent post on weak men) seem like they actually have definite intellectual merit as well.

My explanation would be more something like "LW was originally quite dominated by Eliezer's ideas, but over time and as people have had the time to think about them more, people have started going off in their own directions and producing new kinds of thoughts that are the kind of synthesis that you get when you've assimilated the LW canon deeply enough and then start combining it with all the other influences and ideas that you run into and think about in your life".

2blacktrance12y

There does seem to be a pattern of (commonly accepted idea/pattern/behavior)/(LW-ish/sequence-related/rational (for some sense of the word) idea/pattern/behavior)/(LW-ish justification of something similar to the commonly accepted idea/pattern/behavior), though. It's similar to the metacontrarianism pattern even if it's not caused by actual metacontrarianism.

5Kaj_Sotala12y

There's also the general "thesis, antithesis, synthesis" pattern that intellectual ideas tend to take.

2ShardPhoenix12y

I've read that one - what I was thinking of felt a little different, but maybe it's really the same thing.

8Dagon12y

The status quo actually exists. The status quo is the result of the only experiment we've managed to observe. Understanding this is far more important than any theoretical behaviors.

6Viliam_Bur12y

It reminded me of this article: The belief in correctness of status quo is very strong. Even if people don't literally believe in "just world", they still want to believe that at least some parts of the world are the way thay are for a reason. Maybe there is no god creating the balance, but couldn't evolution or economy have the same outcome? There is also the "Chesterton's fence" concept, that if you don't understand how X makes sense, that may be a fact about you, not a fact about X. Perhaps it would be better to solve each case separately. What is the evidence for rationality of the given behavior? What is the evidence for its irrationality?

5ChristianKl12y

If you want to change the status quo it's very important to understand the reasons for why the status quo exists. If you don't you are unlikely to be able to change anything.

5Punoxysm12y

Sometimes, however, there is no big, deterministic reason for the status quo - it can be historical accident. A lot of intellectual effort can go into story-telling about why things are the way they are and be dead wrong.

[-]ChristianKl12y100

If a status quo is stable then there are forces that keep it stable.

Of course that doesn't mean that you can't be wrong if you try to identify those forces.

8Punoxysm12y

They can be local minima, stable but arbitrary. People turn "for want of a nail" into "inconceivable it could have turned out otherwise".

0MathiasZaman12y

Can you point to a specific example of this? Or maybe give an example from what you've seen personally?

1Username12y

Scott Alexander's "Weak men are superweapons" comes to mind.

[-]MathiasZaman12y140

In a conversation on tumblr it recently came up that learning and doing a couple of exercises on the Sunk Cost Fallacy did not prevent people from committing it. Similarly, in Thinking: Fast and Slow Daniel Kahneman describes students not adjusting their beliefs about humans after learning about the Bystander Effect.

Learning about biases obviously isn't enough, but are there known tricks for better dealing with them after learning about a specific bias?

3Metus12y

As far as I know we can categorise known biases in three categories: Those that we don't know how to deal with, those where merely knowing them is enough and those where some exercise or action helps to deal with them. I think lukeprog had a post on the two latter categories. Trying to find it. Also you could contact CFAR, they do this kind of stuff. Though they might be unwilling to share their untested material. Edit: This article by by crazy88 and this article by lukeprog should get you started.

0MathiasZaman12y

Thanks a lot!

0Metus12y

Please keep me/us updated if you continue researching.

1TylerJay12y

I've experienced not being able to adjust for biases in real emotionally-charged situations, even after knowing about them. However, after reflecting on those real life situations and deciding what I should have done, I found that it became easier to notice them in the future. And after successfully noticing when biases are at play in emotionally charged circumstances and making the rational decision, I've gotten even better at it. For example, I had the sunk costs fallacy bite me really hard in a situation with an ex-girlfriend. But after finally looking at it in those terms and making the rational decision, I was happier which gave me positive reinforcement. I suspect that applying your knowledge of biases in high-stakes or emotionally-charged situations makes it easier to do so in the future. So maybe try starting with doing retrospectives or postmortems and then build up from there. (Of course there's always the possibility that I'm no better at it at all and I just think I am because of the availability bias... but I don't think so)

1Kaj_Sotala12y

Transfer of learning is the more general keyword that's relevant here: getting knowledge that has been taught in one context to transfer to different contexts and actually become widely applicable is a difficult task in general.

[-]D_Malik12y130

Here is a bookmarklet for increasing the width of the main LW content region and hiding the sidebar. Create a new bookmark with the link:

javascript:(function(){document.getElementById('sidebar').style.display='none';document.getElementById('content').style.width='99.5%';document.getElementById('wrapper').style.width='100%';document.getElementById('content').style.paddingLeft='0';document.getElementById('main').style.paddingLeft='2px';document.getElementById('main').style.paddingRight='2px';})()

Put the bookmark somewhere accessible, e.g. a toolbar, then click it when you're on a LW page.

You can now zoom in or out as much as you want, and the content will still fill up the entire width of the screen without needing a horizontal scrollbar. This is probably better if you like to have big text or if your screen is narrow. Modify the code if you want a different layout.

0listic12y

How do I put bookmark in a toolbar? I would like to, as I don't use Bookmarks Toolbar.

0D_Malik12y

In Firefox, View -> Toolbars -> Bookmarks Toolbar. Not sure about other browsers, easiest would be to just google it.

0listic12y

I may have not stated what I wanted clearly. You seem to instruct me how to turn on the Bookmarks toolbar. That's not what I wanted. I don't use a Bookmarks toolbar in my browsers, as I don't feel like its benefits outweigh the space occupied by it and added visual clutter. I thought you were offering a way to put a bookmarklet elsewhere than the Bookmarks toolbar and I was asking you how could I do it. I'm pretty sure I did put a bookmarklet in a menu in Firefox once (that thing that goes "File Edit View History Tools Help"), but I forgot how. Or, I could use an advice re: how to add a bookmarklet at all, even let's say to a Bookmarks toolbar, as I never did it. Thanks!

0Lumifer12y

The bookmarks toolbar is moveable. I typically drag it up top next to the menu bar so that my top bar is actually composed of two: it starts with Menu, but that one is short, so once it ends there is a separator and then bookmarks, on the same line.

0Tenoke12y

Not on topic, but the javascript code seems to go way outside the page. (fixed)

1listic12y

fixed Not for me.

2Tenoke12y

Yeah, it looked normal when I looked at it from work, but it was because I use Firefox there, as opposed to Chrome.

0Jayson_Virissimo12y

It doesn't fit on the page on Mobile Safari either.

[-]BarbaraB12y110

I want to draw an illustrative axis of how probabilities of events feel like. For isntance: 1% probability - lifetime chance of dying in a car crash, 10% probability - blue eyed person in Greece, 0.01 % - occurence of four clover leaf among three clover leaves. Can you give me more of similar specific examples ? I am most interested in 0.1%, 1%, 2 %, 3% and 4%, but I will appreciate any illustrative example, even for very rare events. More illustrations for already covered percentages are also appreciated.

8Lumifer12y

Gut feelings have pretty bad resolution. In particular, I don't think gut feelings can differentiate between, say, 2% and 3%. As a rough approximation (and, possibly, subject to the typical mind fallacy :-D), I think the gut thinks in these categories, assuming the probability is of something bad happening: * Too low-probability to even think about it. * Too low-probability to worry about it unless the consequences are really bad. * Not likely, but worrisome -- worth guarding against unless prevention is expensive/unpleasant. * Feels dangerous, there is motivation to do something about it. * It's coming my way, active measures are called for. * I'm fucked. For fine resolution you can train your mind. I'm not sure how trainable your gut is.

7Tenoke12y

I'd advice you to avoid choosing examples, which might have a different perceived probability than the real one in most people - the usual example would be things which often get reported on the news (which leads to them being are perceived as more likely than they are). Alternatively, use those examples but only in conjunction with other [hopefully] less distorted ones. I'd personally mostly use examples that relate to sports, games and so on - e.g. chance to draw 2 aces in a row from a pack of cards.

7Stefan_Schubert12y

Nice idea, but I'm not sure the examples are that illustrative. People who haven't been to Greece have no idea of how common blue eyed people are there, for instance. What you want is something that people have a good grasp of so that they can develop their intuitions. I don't have an alternative suggestions (apart from things like dice throws, but I guess that's not what you want) off the top of my head, though.

2Joshua_Blaine12y

I think something that touches closely to what you're trying to do is Rational Poker, which is using poker to train your bias overcoming skill. Specifically the This is what 5% feels like. exercise. The idea is that you can combine your explicitly calculated chance of winning a hand with your gut feeling enough times that they begin matching up. You'll eventually understand what 5%, 10%, 50%, or 90% actually feel like from the inside. Unfortunately, Im uncertain how well this gut feeling generalizes, so using it to determine probabilities outside of areas you've trained it for may be less successful.

1plex12y

Chance of a rolling a double six is ~2.8%, and something that comes up in quite a few games.

0gwern12y

Sounds like an xkcd comic. Maybe borrow from his charts?

0BarbaraB12y

Which xkcd comic ?

2gwern12y

One of his charts like http://blog.xkcd.com/2011/03/19/radiation-chart/ but perhaps using micromorts or another such risk unit.

[-]DataPacRat12y110

I've started writing again.

Over at GDocs I've started posting, as I write it, a likely terrible, possibly getting mildly better, self-insert, self-indulgent, post-Singularity RatFic. I started writing mainly to follow a certain piece of good advice I got at Reddit: "Just start writing".

I seem to have pulled off some mental trick that's letting me write a surprising amount per day, so I'm going to be primarily focusing on adding more story as long as that lasts. But constructive feedback can only improve things, and comments at GDocs are turned on. So - have at it.

3jaime200012y

So he's a furry. Also, I am now picturing your character's body as Babs Bunny. I love Convoy. He's adorable. Is this a reference to the Timeship? Your writing has improved much since the early days of your rational cow fic. You've polished your minimalist, abrupt style to the point where it is easy to follow while still leaving only the fun and interesting parts of the story. Is every protagonist you write based on you? I've noticed that Missy, Safe Guard, and Bunny are very similar. They all get turned into female animals at some point, as well.

1DataPacRat12y

Not quite the word I expected, but one I'm happy enough to see. :) I was hoping to channel at least a bit of CelestAI through him, if she didn't have access to massive computing power. Nope. I've heard a few "if only we had the money" speculations about building a cryo-focused ranch, group home, retirement-like community, or the like fairly close to Alcor's HQ, so members who get warning that they're going to de-animate soon can be as close to the facility as possible. I just assumed that sometime in the next three decades, something approaching that idea ends up being put together. I'm pleased to hear that - and a little surprised. On this side of the keyboard, I haven't really noticed how my writing has changed. (And f you have any specific suggestions for how to improve further, I'm all ears.) Before Missy, most of my writing was in the form of play-by-email RPGs. Some of the protagonist characters I wrote were self-inserts, some took some aspect of personality and magnified it to a ridiculous degree, some were experiments (hiveminds are always fun), and some were just, well, characters. I do have to admit that when I consider any given setting, some of my first thoughts tend to be to try to figure out how I'd deal with matters therein, and I find self-inserts to be easier to write than other protagonists. In at least one draft of X-Risks, the protagonist ended up as a male dragon in a hard-to-reach mountaintop library-lair, before getting nudged by CelestAI into a lifestyle that's a little more friendship-oriented. More generally, I suspect that this is a combination of my enthusiasm for transformation-focused stories that try to explore some of the possible range of the parahuman condition, and that the three protagonists you mention were close enough to being self-inserts to start out as male humans.

[-]Viliam_Bur12y100

From "The Sin of Underconfidence":

to put yourself down, and others implicitly above, has a positive tinge of niceness about it, it's the sort of thing that Gandalf would do.

From "Things You Can't Countersignal":

if you are so obviously high-status that no one could possibly miss it, it may be both unnecessary and counterproductive to signal status, because this would let others conflate you with mid-status people (...) If you're personally acquainted with the people around whom you attempt countersignaling, your previous signals (or other evidence to the effect that you are awesome) will already have accumulated. It's not necessary to further prove yourself. (...) The trouble is that it's easy to think one's positive traits are so obvious that no one could miss them when really they aren't. You are not as well known as you think you should be.

Maybe it's just the not-so-much-socially-skilled me rediscovering the wheel here, but anyway, someone else may benefit from this little epiphany too: Humility is just another social tool, and if you are doing it wrong, you may hurt yourself. It is not as safe as it seems.

Here is when you should be humble:

(a) If you... (read more)

6ChristianKl12y

The value of humility depends very much on the culture in which you are operating. A ghetto kid you behaves humble will have a hard time. On the other hand in Japan being humble is very important and there's social punishment from deviating from that standard. Overconfidence in your hand is okay when you play poker. It costs you games when you play go. I think you underrate the effect of broken promises and failing to deliver. Outside of the ghetto where people value civilised society that's not a good strategy. You frequently do lose social status when you destroy another person. There the phrase of giving someone the ropes to hang themselves. Everyone likes the king's death but nobody likes the king's slayer. In one review of the scientific evidence on LW there's the conclusion that modesty increases career success while efforts at self-promotion and being assertive rather diminish it. Especially if you see yourself as someone who's not good at navigating social interactions you should bring a better argument if you want to contradict the published papers.

0Viliam_Bur12y

Yes. So, to be more specific, I am usually thinking about an IT company in Europe, where the bosses EDIT: don't care about the details of the development process, so they cannot judge an individual's contribution well, and they mostly see the team output, where the details are mostly in a "black box". If you are a member of a team, and the team delivers the product, how would the boss know whether it happened (a) because of your contribution, (b) regardless of your contribution, or even (c) despite your contribution? I agree completely here. Does it depend of profession?

0ChristianKl12y

It depends on the people skills of the boss. There are people you can impress by bragging, usually people with low self esteem. Other people simply get annoyed. Social standing in software team is about more than technical skills. It's also about the quality of relationships you have with the other people in your company. Software people generally don't play golf together, but in other areas that's how relationships get build.

0Lumifer12y

The boss would ask the team leader, aka the project manager.

2Viliam_Bur12y

Therefore, you should be the project manager. EDIT: What I meant, is: if there are a few roughly equivalent programmers, and one of them must be selected as the project manager, just take this role. Even if the boss thinks it should be the one with most skills, and it isn't you. Because from that moment, you are the one who provides feedback about skills of members of your team.

6Lumifer12y

That's not how it works in real life. In a corporate setting with a team that's not tiny, "project manager" is a separate position and moving from a programmer to a project manager is a big promotion. Moreover, it's a switch from a programmer career track to a manager career track and so is quite important. You don't "just take" it. In freer settings (e.g. open source) or with teams of only a few programmers, project managers don't have that much power and, in particular, lack the capability to be the sole source of information about how the project is doing and who's contributing what. The boss may talk to you more, but he'll chat with everyone else, too. Moreover, unless your co-workers are total muppets, they will detect your attempts to shove them aside and hog all the glory for yourself. This is likely to have dire reputational consequences, especially if you are also lying to the management about who contributed how much to the project. In severe cases you can make yourself unemployable in the industry.

2Viliam_Bur12y

No, this is how it shouldn't work in real life. But I think I know two specific examples where it did. I guess in both situations it helped that no other programmer wanted the position. Also it seemed that the leadership of the company didn't have a clue about what the team leader should really do; they probably imagined something like a programmer who coordinates other programmers, not a separate career track -- but that is just my guess. In both situations, these people were disliked by the rest of the team, but since no one wanted to replace them, their positions seemed safe. In one situation, a few years later the company leadership realized that they need a separate management career track, and hired managers from outside (I don't know what happened with the specific person). In other situation, a few years later the company hired a new programmer who replaced the original team leader (he became an ordinary programmer again), but that was caused by some changes in the company, mostly unrelated to how the old team leader behaved. So yeah, this strategy doesn't work forever, but a few years are nice, and I don't think there would be consequences for these people after changing a job. I think you can see after a while whether the leadership of the company is interested in the details of how the company works, or if they prefer to isolate themselves and see the programming department merely as a "black box" that produces the desired output (it was the latter in both cases). And of course, you should avoid big specific lies. I still consider this path dangerous and wouldn't walk it myself. But I saw people who took the risk and seemed to win. It probably happened because the whole environment was ready to be abused this way.

1Lumifer12y

You recommended it to people on LW:

0Lumifer12y

No, you should be the boss's boss :-P

5gjm12y

This seems to assume that the only possible purpose of humility is as a means to improve one's status. That seems, to put it mildly, not obviously correct. For example, you might attempt to be humble because ... * ... you think humble people are nicer to be around, and you want to make other people's lives nicer. * ... you think most people overestimate their own merits, see no reason why you should be an exception, and want to correct for this. * ... you belong to a religion that commands (or at least commends) it. * ... you have psychological hangups that make you feel bad when others regard you "too" positively. There are arguments to be made against each of those, but none of them looks much like "you probably think that being humble will make others think better of you, but actually it likely won't". (Side note: I get from Viliam's comment the same impression as I do from some of Robin Hanson's posts: a wilful refusal to consider any but the most cynical interpretation of something, where of course everyone is simply acting (or attempting to act) in their own selfish interests, where anything that looks like kindness or generosity is really a self-regarding status manoeuvre, etc., and where all this cynicism is too obvious to merit any kind of justification, but simply assumed as if everyone worth paying attention to will already agree. My instinctive reaction to this kind of stuff is to see it as a self-regarding status manoeuvre in its own right ("see how independent-minded and fearless I am!") and move the author's credibility down a notch or two. That's probably not a fair reaction, but I suspect I'm not alone in having it.) (One other pedantic note. It seems clear that "humility" here is being used to mean something like "self-deprecation". I have seen the word used in other ways -- e.g., to denote an attempt to have the exact same attitude to one's own merits and demerits as to those of other people. Perhaps some other term might be less ambiguous

2Viliam_Bur12y

Yeah. I would like to have some textbook on social skills, where one chapter would be e.g. about humility: many possible interpretations of the word; which ones are helpful, and which ones are harmful, and how it depends on context. Specific, specific, specific. EDIT: What I mean by this is that people sometimes give you an advice that "it is better to be humble", but without the details about how specifically to be humble (and how specifically not to be humble), such advice can be even harmful. Also, the advice from other people usually comes with its own bias, namely that people are more likely to correct you on behavior that somehow harms or annoys them, but will be quiet about behavior that only harms you.

[-]BarbaraB12y100

Can you give me advice, where I can study medicine online ? I understand that it may be kind of impossible, because there are a lot of seminars with hands-on laboratory work during medical studies. And I know the load of data is enormous. However, I would be thankful for the closest approximation to "get even" with real physicians, or at least nurses.

6Metus12y

What would be the point?

0[anonymous]12y

I am an argumentative type, do my own net search when I have a condition. However, I do not want to embarass myself in confrontation. For instance, knowing the odds of particular tratment success from Cochrane library, but not knowing some basic physiology fact.

3rxs12y

I suppose you've already checked the usuals like coursera, udacity, youtube courses etc.? "Medicine" is exteremely broad, but you can find some interesting intro courses to some of its aspects, e.g.: https://www.coursera.org/courses?orderby=upcoming&search=medicine Just some more general courses that sound interesting/useful: Clinical Terminology for International and U.S. Students https://www.coursera.org/course/clinicalterminology Understanding Research: An Overview for Health Professionals (looks extremely useful!) https://www.coursera.org/course/researchforhealth Vital Signs: Understanding What the Body Is Telling Us https://www.coursera.org/course/vitalsigns Clinical Problem Solving https://www.coursera.org/course/clinprobsolv Introduction to Pharmacy https://www.coursera.org/course/intropharma Introductory Human Physiology https://www.coursera.org/course/humanphysio Plus many intro courses on genetics, neuropsychology etc.

0BarbaraB12y

Those are some very good tips, thanks !

1polymathwannabe12y

Buy a subscription to Elsevier's Clinical Key website. Lots of books, updated clinical guidelines, and an endless flow of journal articles. You'll need to pay extra if you want to specialize.

0BarbaraB12y

Thanks, seems expensive, but I will do the free trial.

I finished a spaced repetition experiment with my treadmill: http://www.gwern.net/Treadmill#treadmill-effect-on-spaced-repetition-performance-randomized-experiment

[-]credibility12y80

How do you optimize your credit score? I am getting my first credit card soon, and I want to do everything right so that in a few years when I might need a loan, everything is really good. I made a mistake by applying to too many cards, so now I have more inquiries than is good. Any other pitfalls to be aware of?

[-]RolfAndreassen12y160

In my experience, people pay way too much attention to credit scores, relative to the underlying cash flows. Suggest you concentrate on building up savings, which you control to a much greater extent, instead of trying to optimise a mostly opaque system that has, in any case, at most a second-order effect on your prosperity.

5credibility12y

I already do this, and credit scores have been an issue for me several times already. For example, when renting an apartment, lots of landowners want to see your credit score. It also doesn't take very much effort to use it well, it's mostly a matter of knowing what to do. And in absolute terms it still makes a large difference, even if it is only a second-order term.

9TylerJay12y

I wouldn't worry about having too many inquiries right now. That's just a temporary mark and it has a low impact on your credit score. Here are some tips to help build a good credit score: 1. Credit Cart Utilization: Keep your total % of credit used at under 30%. 10-20% is probably ideal. Also, try not to max out any individual cards. Raising the total amount of credit you have available is a good thing and it allows you to charge more while still staying in the sweet spot of card utilization. 2. Credit History Length: If you're young, I would recommend applying for a new card every 6 - 12 months. This will pay off down the line as you'll have a longer "average age of credit cards" and a higher "total amount of available credit". Having 10-20 credit cards is not a bad thing. They all contribute to the age of your credit history and to your total credit limit. 3. Payment History and Derogatory Marks: Always pay on time. This has a big impact on your credit score. Set up a savings or checking account with some money in it as a buffer and set all of your credit cards to auto-pay the minimum from this account and set up overdraft protection using this account. I do this to avoid getting any bad marks on my card, but usually end up making a manual payment for the whole account balance before it has a chance to accumulate any interest. With this in place, you can use a credit card for most purchases to get the rewards and to contribute to your credit history. 0 late payments out of a small number of purchases is good, but 0 late payments out of a large number of purchases is better. 4. Total Accounts and Account Mix: This has a lower impact on your credit score, but having more accounts is better and having a mix of account types is better (mortgage, car loan, credit cards, student loans, etc.). It shows that you have been granted credit by many institutions and that you are equally reliable at different forms of credit. 5. Increase the credit limits of cards y

1credibility12y

Thank you, this is the most helpful reply.

9John_Maxwell12y

Set your bills to auto-pay from your bank account. Then you can treat your credit card like it's effectively a debit card and make your everyday purchases with it in order to collect the rewards. (Though, I think I remember reading that you'll still build your credit rating holding a credit card you don't use.)

4edanm12y

I once read "I will Teach you to be Rich" by Ramit Sethi. It went into a fair bit of detail on this. I didn't finish the book and can't really recommend it, since most of the advice was very US-centric (e.g. optimizing credit scores isn't relevant for me). But it might be a starting place.

[-]Qiaochu_Yuan12y70

My body itches uncomfortably whenever I start exercising or am embarrassed. This is causing me to avoid exercise and thinking about things that cause me embarrassment, some of which are problems in my life I should be solving. Does anyone know what this kind of reaction is called and what I can do to get rid of it?

(Previously I thought the itching was being caused by heat, sunlight, or my detergent, but I've since changed to a gentler detergent and I still get this reaction even when I'm not particularly hot or exposed to much sunlight.)

7moridinamael12y

This is just your skin starting to sweat. I complained about this to an extremely fit friend and his somewhat disdainful advice was that I needed to exercise more. Perhaps this answer is not at the level of rigor you wanted, but I think everyone experiences this, and the more you sweat, the less uncomfortable sweating becomes.

0niceguyanon12y

I'd like to tack on to this question by asking about itching and the onset of sleeping. Someone I know has a serious enough problem of getting very itchy right before sleeping, to the point of not being able to sleep. My first guess was dust mites, but freshly laundered sheets do not stop the itching, and no itching occurs when wearing days old jeans.

0Pfft12y

For a while I've had mysteriously itchy skin which seems triggered by hot showers, temperature changes, and time-of-day. I was told antihistamine tablets (sold over-the-counter for hay-fever) can help, but I have haven't tried it yet. (Another common cause of itchy skin is being too dry => apply moisturizing lotion twice daily. It doesn't sound like what you have, but I guess you could try).

[-]blacktrance12y70

(A thought inspired by Yvain's Weak Men are Superweapons.)

Suppose you agree with Idea-Based Group* X more than the average person does but nevertheless disagree with Group X significantly enough to not be a member of it. Group X is often criticized, but for holding ideas you agree with, and not for the ones you disagree with. How do you avoid pattern-matching as a member of Group X?

*By "Idea-Based Group" I mean a group centered around an idea or a related collection of ideas, which includes things like Effective Altruism, adherents to a political ideology, etc.

3Nornagest12y

Holding yourself just outside a large, powerful, controversial social alignment is a pretty uncomfortable thing to do; people in the ingroup aren't going to think of you as an ally, they're going to think of you as a heretic. And thanks to outgroup homogenity, you're going to find it very hard to distinguish yourself from X from the perspective of people outside it. (Insert your own examples here; I'd add some, but all the ones I can think of are politically sensitive.) If you're loud enough and can get enough people on board early, you might be able to establish yourself as a sustainable group mutually distinguished from X. But I don't think it's possible to reliably keep the groups straight as far as people outside them are concerned: once you've defined your ideology you can't pick and choose the criteria people will be using to make those judgments, so they'll correctly note the similarities more often than not.

3blacktrance12y

The examples that come to mind for me suggest that they're only going to think of you as a heretic if you identify as a member of the ingroup. If you have exactly the same beliefs but place yourself outside of the group, they'll likely ignore you altogether - you're similar enough to not be worth attacking, and small enough to not affect the group's reputation or inner workings.

2ShardPhoenix12y

I've been having this problem a lot lately - I find myself defending various right-wing groups and positions from leftist attacks and end up tarred with the same brush even though I'm far from agreeing with every aspect of the right-wing positions. At the same time there's a strong psychological push toward political polarisation where I find myself agreeing more strongly with the right-wingers than I would have if I hadn't been arguing about it. So far my solution has been to try to reduce my exposure to political arguments, since they don't do me much good anyway. But if you're on the internet a lot that's easier said than done.

[-]Viliam_Bur12y140

I was called "left-wing" by some right-wing people, called "right-wing" by some left-wing people, and when a random Jehovah Wittness called me "an intolerant Catholic", I stopped caring anymore about how other people call me, because it simply doesn't make sense.

When someone calls you X, they usually mean that you are not as anti-X as them.

Signalling group loyalty, affective death spirals, et cetera. If you don't believe that your enemies eat little babies, you are probably one of them; QED. You can't have a rational debate with mindkilled people on internet. Maybe in a private debate a few of them would admit that you have a point, but in a group, someone will always seize the opportunity to signal group loyalty by accusing you of something.

0MrMind12y

Possibly you can exploit the Central Category Fallacy. You copy the whole memeplex X, change what you want and declare it to be an entirely different thing, with its own name, ideology, etc. If someone challenges you that it is the same thing as X, you just point to the different things and say "See? Xers believe this and that, but I most emphatically DON'T!" If someone is interested/pedantic enough to point out the similarities, you can concede that sometimes Xers think like you do. Granted, screening for pattern matching means also no Halo Effect from X-ers and their friends.

0blacktrance12y

Finding catchy names for ideologies isn't easy, but the bigger problem is that people will think "You're an Xer" much more often than they'll explicitly accuse you of being an Xer. Although I suppose you could continuously say "I'm not an Xer, but I think this idea they have is right".

0MrMind12y

I guess that without proper social experiments it's hard to tell, but I feel that people rarely take the time to properly distinguish memeplexes based on their memetic content: they rely much more on things like faces, group associations, catchy names, etc. Monkey social stuff, you know. I feel that you can either optimize for distinguished appearance, or arguing about the content of your memeplex of choice. I don't see the second working well to do the first job.

0Vulture12y

And on a pop-Kantian note, this would be a good strategy to universalize since an environment with more ideological splinter groups that are mutually distinguished from each other would probably be more intellectually healthy than the current climate.

This might be the wrong type of thing to post here.

I suffer from a medical disorder that is very unpleasant. I also suffer from a personality disorder that is very unpleasant. For these reasons, and a few others, I planned a suicide for next week (next week because my family member has an event coming up and I don't want to ruin it). I already kinda precommitted to it by gambling away all of my money and even taking a loan and gambling that away too. I bought the necessary tools to carry out the task.

Even though I understand the position of Eliezer and oth... (read more)

4ChristianKl12y

Did you speak with a professional counselor about your issues?

1raisin12y

Nah. And I don't have enough money anymore to do that. That was probably very dumb thing to do, but whatever.

1ChristianKl12y

There are still services like: http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ If you aren't in the US, which country are you from?

2raisin12y

Didn't notice this question. I'm from Finland.

2MathiasZaman12y

I found this link with information to a Finnish suicide hotline: http://www.suicide.org/hotlines/international/finland-suicide-hotlines.html

-2ChristianKl12y

I would be pretty confident that there are free counseling options available in Finland for people who have borderline personality disorder and are contemplating suicide. It's not like you live in a third world country with a bad safety net.

0raisin12y

Those people usually have such a different way of thinking that I feel even more alienated. I don't want to be convinced out of suicide, I'm not even sure if I want help.

-1ChristianKl12y

Then what about talking with your family?

0raisin12y

I don't feel particularly close to them, so that's an even more difficult thing to do.

-1ChristianKl12y

It's probably an easier thing to do then committing suicide.

1raisin12y

Then it's not a problem. If it's easier, then I will talk to them, if it's not, I will commit suicide. It may very well be that I will talk to them even though it will be very painful, only time will tell.

0MrMind12y

It's not exactly clear what propels your suicidal thoughts. The sufference given by your mental/physical condition? Or are the condition themselves that generate those thoughts? I'm also curious about gambling away your money: why gambling instead of say, donating or spending them in drugs, prostitutes, etc.?

1raisin12y

It's because I'm not exactly sure about it myself. I also didn't want to make it clear because I feel it's too embarrassing. Probably both, but the former more. I first thought about donating it to GiveDirectly. But I don't have a 100% will to die. I thought I'd want to live if I had so much money that I could live comfortably and not have to work for years and gambling has a very small chance of achieving that. About drugs, I have no interest in mindless wireheading. I would, if the state of euphoria would last, but in regards to contemporary drugs what goes up must come down so the negative/positive mental states even out and I might as well live in a normal neutral mental state. But I bought some psychedelics and used them for a while until I grew tired of them and threw the rest of them away. I also thought about prostitutes, but I wasn't excited enough to do anything about it. Generally, I've been sensory binging for some time now and it hasn't made my situation that much better so I don't feel like drugs or prostitutes would make me feel very much better on the long term.

[-]polymathwannabe12y160

Normally the first rule of responding to a suicidal poster on a web forum would be advising you to get professional help, call an emergency line, join a support group, all that stuff. And it's still what I will recommend you do in the first place, but we must admit that some of them may be ill-equipped to deal with the struggles of a highly rational person. On the other hand, they may try a supportive approach you haven't thought of yet. As per the posted LW guidelines, we must point you to these resources:

http://wiki.lesswrong.com/wiki/Suicide,_Self-Harm,_or_Violent_Content_on_LessWrong#Suicide_and_Self-Harm

As your medical history is yours to choose to share or not, you don't need to apologize for keeping it private. But you wouldn't need to apologize, either, if you chose to discuss it with us. You're protected behind your username. Most of us don't know you in meatspace. And even if someone dared make fun of you or say something insensitive, he/she would be downvoted to cyber-hell. One of the main priorities I've noticed in the LW forum is that its members take human survival very seriously, and we're talking your survival here.

In your post I saw several signs that suggest you d... (read more)

1raisin12y

Okay, I haven't done the first two. I've made a couple posts on www.reddit.com/r/suicidewatch during the past few years but then I started harassing the people of that subreddit for reasons I'm not exactly sure of - I encouraged them to commit suicide, like this - then my whole IP got banned from reddit about a week ago. I'm not sure if I'd call me "rational", I'm not sure if a rational person would consider suicide, but I'm a bit out of the ordinary for sure. Okay, I promise to call to a suicide hotline before I attempt a suicide (confidence, 90%). I don't live in any of those countries so that didn't help me very much, I'm not sure if that's a good thing to say for a person frequenting LW forums who probably has some level of self-awareness, but it surely isn't for a general suicidal person. I quote SQLwitch, the mod from /r/suicidewatch, who's been helping suicidal people for decades: 'Don't disagree with suicidal people about how bad things are. It’s not about their circumstances; it’s about their suffering, and you can’t measure that from the outside. A message that in any way tries to tell or show the suicidal person that “it’s not so bad” is just another way of saying “I don't understand what you’re going through”.' 'For our OPs who are in the lowest and most dangerous state of mind, simply seeing one of these message can make their sense of alienation and failure worse, because they are not remotely able to believe that it's true for them. Anything meant to be universally "uplifting", including the overuse of the "It Gets Better" message, which originated in the specific context that adults aren't usually as emotionally immature as teenagers, tends to backfire."' This part of your post initially made me feel worse because being suicidal is a considerable part of my identity (I've been thinking about it for the past 7 years). Making assumptions about a person you don't know makes the other person feel kinda bad. It's a bit unfair because you can say th

3polymathwannabe12y

I hope I didn't come out as trying to tell you things weren't so bad, because that was not my intent. I'm not inside your head and I have no right to explain your feelings to you. I don't, and won't, question your circumstances, which are very real. What I'd like to help you focus on is what you decide to do about those circumstances, because that part of your personal story isn't set in stone yet. You probably know it's not a healthy sign that suicidal thoughts have gotten so deep that they've become a core part of your identity. However, what we often cling to as our identity is more flexible than we're willing to admit. If you've ever changed religions or dealt with unconventional sexual feelings, you know that the way we've grown used to define ourselves may in fact evolve continually. Perhaps I ought to have been more detailed with the questioning part, but I didn't want to cross a line where I would begin dictating to you what you should do. Questioning your mind also involves learning to distinguish which thoughts are reliable and which aren't. Examine where a thought leads you, trace the consequences as fully as you can before you judge whether that thought serves you or not, and by "serve you," you may insert whichever you like from "makes me stronger," "makes me happier," "calms me down," or whatever priority you have set for your life. You won't always want to ask yourself what's the use of every thought, because it gets tiresome at times. You'll need to set criteria that work for you so you're free from both carelessness and overthinking.

0raisin12y

I think I kinda got obsessed with this part of your post and started thinking really much about it (sorry for ignoring all the other advice in your posts). Mainly because I realized that I even suck at being suicidal - I'm not good at even that, haha. I guess I shouldn't care about things in this world if I'm suicidal. With that in mind I decided to advance it by a week, so umm... today. I have a big amount cognitive dissonance, I still suck at this "really wanting to die" business, but maybe I'll push through.

0MrMind12y

Now I'm curious than ever, but of course you're not obliged to satisfy my curiosity. In my culture there's no overlap between embarassing and very painful diseases, but I guess that in other cultures (say, Japanese) it might be different. I'm also shooting in the dark here, but something like sounds odd from a person with suicidal thoughts.

1raisin12y

Let's see if I can muster enough courage to speak about my problems more explicitly. I've heard that one before (that I have weird issues for a person with suicidal thoughts. Even that I'm maybe even lying to myself... that I'm not actually suicidal.)

2MrMind12y

Well, I wouldn't say that, after all everyone has their own peculiarity. Perhaps your brain is compartimentalizing suicide and survival instincts, and you're switching between the two. We still understand so very little about the brain and its diseases nobody can be really sure.

0raisin12y

Alright, my problems are Irritable bowel syndrome and borderline personality disorder.

3MrMind12y

Ah, one of my dearest friend suffers from both IBS and a mild case of OCD. I wonder if there's some connection between IBS, the enteric brain and the encephalic brain that might explain these occurences. I say this because when a psychiatrist tried to treat her for the latter disorder, the meds aggravated the first condition, so were promptly suspended. No one saw this coming.

2polymathwannabe12y

Does your country provide universal health care? Or how does it work?

0raisin12y

Yes. Why?

2polymathwannabe12y

Earlier you mentioned you couldn't afford a counselor. I don't know the specifics of your country's system, but lack of money should not be a problem if you have coverage for both of your conditions.

0raisin12y

It's not very simple. I'm not sure if I have coverage for those conditions. It could be.

5ChristianKl12y

In most countries being suicidal is a condition that's covered. In any case it can't hurt to ask a local therapist whether you would be covered.

[-]iarwain112y40

Anybody know about the purported dangers of smart meters? I couldn't find too many sources that I felt were reliable that said they were anything more than an extremely minimal health risk, if that. The only two sources I could find that might be credible and said it was a problem were this and this (starting on pg 31). But even if it's not such a problem, it's only about $100 + $10/month to have it avoided. I can probably afford that, so isn't it worth the money to have an extremely minimal health risk avoided?

9[anonymous]12y

Why would it be any more dangerous than a computer?

[-]Will_BC12y40

Any advice on how to increase the amount I read without increasing the time I spend reading? I'm concerned that just trying to up the pace will lower my comprehension.

8Vaniver12y

If you're not going to increase the input or the rate, then I think all you have left to modify is the quality.

0Will_BC12y

Well, I'm open to increasing the rate, but I'm looking for information on how people do that without harming comprehension.

5Ben_LandauTaylor12y

My experience is that modern speed-reading techniques don't lower comprehension unless you get extremely fast (say, 900-1500 wpm). The exception is the very early stages, so it's good to practice on, e.g., mildly interesting fiction. After a couple of weeks with ~30 minutes of focused practice daily, I was reading at double my previous pace with the same comprehension.

[-]ChristianKl12y100

How do you know that you have the same comprehension?

[-]Ben_LandauTaylor12y100

I frequently give my friends detailed feedback and analysis on their writing. They know about my speed reading thing, and none of them have noticed any change in the quality of my feedback.

0drethelin12y

The feeling of having the same comprehension is 90 percent of what you want anyway, if you haven't had problems with failing eg school assignments.

2ChristianKl12y

I don't think that's the case. I frequently read in order to learn something and not in order to feel like learning something.

2drethelin12y

How regularly do you apply what you learned? Of the last 10 books you've read, have you used something from each of them? If you're applying what you've learned, and it seems to work, that's how you know you haven't lost comprehension. If you're not applying what you've learned, it doesn't matter that much either way.

0ChristianKl12y

Most of what I read isn't books but internet discussion. It's often hard to distinguish what using an intellectual idea means. I do learn things and bring them up in a separate discussion a year later. If I reply to your post than I'm using the fact that I read your post to write an answer. Better understanding of your point of view translates into a better answer.

0Will_BC12y

Where did you learn these speed reading techniques?

0Ben_LandauTaylor12y

I leaned from Matt Fallshaw, who IIRC was using something loosely based on the Evelyn Wood method.

1Will_BC12y

Thanks for answering, I did some googling and found a website called spreeder.com that seems to be helping. So far I've been able to gradually increase the wpm from where I was comfortable starting, and it seems like it could be an effective tool.

[-]fubarobfusco12y40

Cards Against Rationality is almost two years old, and badly in need of an update. Some of the jokes are dated; some of them were never as funny as we thought; and some ended up needing too much explanation in games.

Any suggestions?

0[anonymous]12y

A practical solution that I use is to buy all the expansion packs and discard cards you don't like without regret (we remove any card that repeatedly requires explanation, or always goes unused). The expansions aren't very expensive. There are also third-party expansion sets, but I don't have any so can't vouch for their quality.

[-]palladias12y30

Dear hivemind: Any suggested interventions/experiments for a lack of appetite?

I haven't felt hungry in at least a month. I still eat, obviously, but I do it out of conscientiousness rather than desire, and have about one meal a day, with a couple of snacks that probably don't add up to a full meal throughout the day. I've had periods of no appetite before, but they usually resolved themselves within a week or so. I tried not eating when I wasn't hungry, assuming I'd wind up hungry, but this just resulted in my not eating at all for a day and a half.

Suggestions?

6ShardPhoenix12y

If you've been losing a significant amount of weight as result (and weren't overweight to begin with) I'd suggest seeing a doctor ASAP.

5palladias12y

Not that I've noticed (I don't have a scale). But my clothes seem to fit about the same/don't need tailoring.

4kalium12y

Marijuana is at least worth trying (if easily available).

0palladias12y

Suggestion appreciated, but I'm not interesting in that for personal and professional reasons.

4gjm12y

I'd suggest "see a doctor" as the most obvious intervention.

0palladias12y

My GP is in a different state than I currently live in. I mentioned periods of hungerlessness before (the shorter ones) and she said I should make sure to eat anyway, which I mostly do.

2Luke_A_Somers12y

And after that did you persist in not being hungry? Were you suffering consequences of lack of food (low energy, irritability, etc.) while not feeling hungry?

2palladias12y

Still wasn't hungry after not eating. And no side effects that I noticed.

2chaosmage12y

If you're newly in love, that'll usually decrease appetite. The effect peters out after a few months, no intervention needed.

1charlemango12y

Really? That's interesting. What's the hypothesis on why this occurs?

1chaosmage12y

The pop sci explanation is that love gives you dopamine and dopamine decreases appetite - but appetite loss is also a reaction to loss of a loved one so I don't think that's very convincing.

2Richard_Kennaway12y

You don't say that this is causing you any problems. Is it? Do you find yourself as physically and mentally fit as previously?

0palladias12y

Yeah, no problems besides confusion (and my grocery bill is lower). But it's sufficiently odd that it seems with investigating/fixing. Plus it means I enjoy eating a lot less, since I don't desire to eat, so it just feels like a duty that costs me money.

2TylerJay12y

I agree with Daniel_Burfoot about exercise. 20 minutes of low-intensity cardio exercise is usually enough to increase appetite. Bodybuidlers will often do a small amount of cardio on their off-days to keep appetite up. You could also eat more foods that are less satiating. Fructose for example (while probably bad for you) doesn't trigger an insulin response and does not contribute to satiety, while fiber-rich foods are more filling. A google search can help you find the right kinds of foods.

2Daniel_Burfoot12y

The obvious suggestion is just to exercise more.

0EStokes12y

Try keeping food nearby? Have food in the house that's easy to prepare? Buy tastier food (even at the expense of healthiness)?

0Eugine_Nier12y

Well, fasting for a day is generally considered good for one's health.

2Joshua_Blaine12y

It's clear that LessWrong disagrees with you, but in the spirit of challenging my assumptions I'm asking you for any substantive sources that support your claim. Or less substantively, where did you hear/why do you believe that?

2knb12y

Relevant keyword is intermittent fasting

[-]David_Gerard12y20

George Dvorsky, IEET: 10 Futurist Phrases And Terms That Are Complete Bullshit - many of which used to mean something but have decayed into victims of the ways words can be wrong.

3Richard_Kennaway12y

"Will" (in the sense of future tense, and grandiose predictions thereof) is on that list, yet he closes with this (my emphasis): So it's ok to say that business WILL continue as usual, but not to say that it WILL be different?

0David_Gerard12y

Yeah, that was less than ideal writing.

A Proposal to Organize A Pharmocology of Nootropics Lecture, and Presentation

[-]closeness12y10

I'm thinking of ways to promote effective altruism, such as speaking at colleges and political lobbying. Any thoughts/recommendations?

2ChristianKl12y

Start a local EA meetup.

2Lumifer12y

Which political things do you want to lobby for?

2closeness12y

Changing where international aid goes. Regulating charities so they have to apply a criteria showing how effective they spend money. This is in Ireland btw.

3Lumifer12y

What measure of effectiveness would you propose such that it is easy to calculate and applicable to all charities?

-2closeness12y

I think the easiest way would be to show smallest number of euros per live saved, and charities which have minimal to do with saving lives wouldn't be considered useful at all. Givewell.orgs' charity list seems like the best one to promote, as for charities which work within Ireland, that would be more difficult.

3Lumifer12y

That's a rather... extreme attitude. So you want a government policy which explicitly says that charities which do not directly save lives are worthless?

2closeness12y

It would be more about informing than enforcing. There are already rules here which make registered charities show where their money goes, so a mechanism for comparing effectiveness wouldn't be a big leap.

2Lumifer12y

I submit that an official government definition of what constitutes the effectiveness of a charity would be a huge leap.

0MathiasZaman12y

There was something on the Effective Altruist facebook page (I think) about how political lobbying only really makes a difference if you have a lot of cash to burn.

0ChristianKl12y

I think lobbying success depends a lot of the quality of the arguments that you have and your personal abilities. Simply being in a position to tell a politician a good argument that the politician didn't know existed beforehand can change something even if you don't have much money.

[-][anonymous]12y10

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We're looking for someone (like you!) with experience in both project management and the data science skill cluster to lead our analytics efforts. This is an opportunity to have an outsized altruistic impact by helping a business that donates directly to charities succeed. And, of course, you'd get to work closely with at least one other rationalist :)

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[-]David_Gerard12y00

New Open Thread: http://lesswrong.com/r/discussion/lw/kaz/open_thread_38_june_2014/

[-]Algernoq12y-30

I'm concerned (morally horrified as well as convinced of factual error) by quotes from two texts that are part of the "canon" here. The first advocates nonconsensual sadism; the second advocates sadism. Warning: SEX AND CONSENT AND SADISM TO BE DISCUSSED:

From "Three Worlds Collide":

The Confessor [, a rationality expert on a starship's crew,] held up a hand. "I mean it, my lord Akon. It is not polite idealism. We ancients can't steer. We remember too much disaster. We're too cautious to dare the bold path forward. Do you kn

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[-]AlexSchell12y350

At least one point of Three Worlds Collide is to help the reader appreciate what Irreconcilable Moral Differences feel like from the inside. Humanity revising its view of consent contributes to this goal, and has the benefit of being nearer. With immortality to keep past generations alive, sufficient cumulative moral progress will feel to them about as alien and terrible as legalizing rape.

[-]Kaj_Sotala12y340

The first advocates nonconsensual sadism; the second advocates sadism.

Creating a fictional society in which people do X does not imply advocating X.

" This is obviously and offensively wrong. Does the risk of robbery improve living conditions? Does the risk of death improve life? Also, a future society where consent is optional appears to be a terrible dystopia: assuming a free democratic government, lack of consent implies that advertisers and corporations could force consumers to buy things. This quote needs A LOT of additional justification and qualification (and ideally deletion) to avoid implying that "raising the sanity waterline" means "abolishing liberty and ethics.""

That part of the story wasn't trying to say "this is something that needs to happen to raise the sanity waterline". Remember, it's just a fictional story. Rather, it was trying to show an example of something that we today would find incredibly offensive and morally unjustifiable, and yet that became a part of humanity.

Remember that for someone 500 years ago, many of our current practices seem absolutely repugnant and morally unjustifiable, even though today they're just part of culture. Even 100 years ago, the idea of a black person sitting next to a white person on a bus was considered terrible, not to mention women having any kind of rights at home. In some parts of the world, a woman showing her hair is considered immoral and unjustifiable.

The story just wanted to give something that could happen but most people would think is wrong.

[-]falenas10812y170

Consensual sadism isn't a goal of raising the sanity waterline any more than having better sex is, but many people consider both to be enjoyable things. We can't say anything that does not strictly raise the waterline is automatically bad, or even a neutral thing.

Inflicting pain for fun appears likely to harm empathy and sociability

In my experience, this is very much the opposite of what happens. As a sadist, I need to be more aware of what my bottoms are experiencing. In most cases, it isn't that people who are bottoming enjoy all pain, I had to learn to recognize the difference in reactions between pleasure, good pain, bad pain that they like, and bad pain that they don't like. This is much harder than in vanilla practices, which just needs to differentiate between any type of pain and pleasure.

As for sociability, the BDSM community is very much a social one, and I don't see how being in it would decrease this.

4A1987dM12y

What do you mean by “bad” for that to make sense?

5falenas10812y

For some people, certain types and amounts of pain is actually processed as a basically enjoyable thing. Other types of pain are still processed as pain, but is still something they want to happen and enjoy on a different level.

2kalium12y

The distinction that I make is physically damaging versus not. So good pain that I like is pretty simple (hair-pulling, spicy food, moderate heat, etc.); good pain that I don't like would include a lot of the pain caused by exercise; bad pain that I like would include excessive heat (for some reason damaging levels of heat are easier for me to enjoy than other sorts of injury; I've burned myself before by walking on hot pavement that wasn't quite too hot to enjoy), and bad pain that I don't like would include stubbed toes, sprained ankles, and the like.

9MathiasZaman12y

That part in Three Worlds Collide is intended to show that future humanity is as far removed from us as the Baby-Eaters and the Superhappies are from future humanity. It's not put forward as an example to follow. Shock and disgust are the intended reaction. (Also as a sidenote, I remember Yudkowsky saying that he probably should have put in a different example.) I can't comment about rationalists and BDSM since I'm not a part of the latter community. What I do know is that subs tend to be just as happy with the arrangement as doms are and that a sub not being happy with the thing is seen as a bad thing. Also, BDSM isn't just about inflicting (or receiving) pain for sexual pleasure. Aftercare is an important aspect of the relationships, from what I read.

5Shmi12y

Neither is anything remotely resembling "canon". TWC is an early attempt at metaethics fiction, and the Confession was reposted from Facebook, by popular (but misguided) demand. While a fun reading in context, they do not represent anything more. The LW site is certainly not the intended audience for the "confession", as far as I understand, and this mismatch shows quite painfully. If you feel like being "morally horrified" (whatever that might mean), at least consider looking at the Sequences.

-2Algernoq12y

I meant "morally horrified" as shorthand for "high confidence that what is described greatly reduces happiness". If you have a decision-making process that operates without you feeling anything, I would like to hear about it. In that case, you might enjoy reading Gut Feelings, which describes how feelings typically help people accurately make decisions in a time-limited environment. In some scenarios, allowing time to think and reflect resulted in a less-accurate decision-making than relying on snap judgments, for example because time allowed people to assign too much meaning to unreliable information. This could be said about any text anyone disagrees with.

1Luke_A_Somers12y

No, it really couldn't - not with a similar degree of justification, anyway. (Why is this a bad comment? Not everything is a fully general counterargument, and the context here is definitely nontrivial!)

5ChristianKl12y

You are not reading at a deep enough level to engage with the text. dath ilan is supposed to be a rationalist ideal world. It's a world without sadists. The text doesn't disagree with the claim that sadism is a distraction from following the rationalist goal. I also don't know, but if you don't know, why are you making the claim in the first place instead of doing a bit of background research?

-2MathiasZaman12y

I didn't read dath ilan as an ideal world, just a better one.

-3ChristianKl12y

You are missing a word in my sentence. The key word isn't "ideal" but "rationalist".

1MathiasZaman12y

I didn't miss it and my response would be the same. Dath ilan is optimized better than our world, but certainly not maximally optimized.

4bramflakes12y

This part was a jarring note in Three Worlds Collide for me, but for a different reason. If these people grok evolutionary theory so much that they can infer the evolutionary reason for an alien species' Baby-eating behavior within the course of a day, and also evolutionary psychology concepts like "superstimulus" have permeated to be part of everyday language, then why do they have trouble understanding why unwanted sex might be a cause for discomfort? I can accept societal attitudes towards it changing given sufficiently advanced technology, but that people wouldn't UNDERSTAND why it was once proscribed just breaks immersion for me.

[-]drethelin12y130

People very often use the phrase "I don't understand x" to express disapproval and to mean "I haven't even TRIED to understand x"

0bramflakes12y

Are you talking about me or the characters?

0drethelin12y

The characters.

0[anonymous]12y

This doesn't seem at all obvious to me. Source?

-1Algernoq12y

While studies of SM are lacking, other activities involving inflicting pain are shown to reduce empathy. Examples include violent video games (study) and fighting in a war (article). I don't have a source for sociability impact beyond my self-interested desire to avoid people who enjoy causing pain.

5Pfft12y

Maybe those are not comparable. E.g. anna anthropy writes

0Algernoq12y

Makes sense. I wish more people had such self-awareness and empathy!

-11Eugine_Nier12y

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