on the one hand, it is a desirable feature of an intellectual community to be truth seeking, and while it can be deeply emotionally painful to part ways with deeply held beliefs, in the long run it's better to tear off the bandage. on the other hand, being emotionally hurt all the time by your community kind of fucking sucks, and isn't very good for long term emotional or epistemic health.
perhaps a middle ground is in order: intellectual communities should be partitioned into an arena, where every idea is to be exposed to the harsh light of truth, and an antechamber, where you can rest and be surrounded by positivity and develop ideas in a supportive environment.
both are necessary - we need a way to kill bad ideas, because an environment that refuses to discard bad ideas because they are emotionally load bearing is doomed to epistemic ruin. but also the best weird ideas often sound bad initially, and require a safe environment to develop; and we are all human, and our emotional well being and desire to belong to a community is essential. by visibly separating the two, we might be able to get the best of both worlds.
this is not a crazy idea - many other parts of society have analogous things. for example, people who play sports for fun with their friends compete to win while on the field, but this only brings them closer off the field.
I think one common criticism of LW ist it is too much of an arena, and not enough of an antechamber. perhaps this can be fixed somehow.